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How To Overcome Sex Addiction – the escape factor

The process of escape begins with experiencing an uncomfortable feeling, like anxiety, fear, guilt, boredom, stress, etc. The options for relieving uncomfortable feelings lead to two separate experiences. One is beneficial; the other is far from beneficial. The most effective option is to face the discomfort and work your way through it.

The ineffective option is escape. That’s where addictions come in. Addictions are escape mechanisms used to temporarily relieve uncomfortable feelings. For the addicted person to really overcome an addiction, he or she needs to learn how to face uncomfortable feelings rather than trying to escape them.
Conventional, licensed therapy and the 12-step program fail at this requirement. Therapy encourages you to blame your problems on your childhood. In other words, “Escape responsibility by blaming it on your parents.” Or it encourages you to rely on psychological medication, which means, “Numb your feelings rather than deal with them.” The 12-step program fails at dealing with reality because you are encouraged to rely on the group rather than yourself. In effect, the group becomes your new escape mechanism.

To overcome the escapism that causes sex addiction you need to learn how to:
1- Face your feelings for what they are rather than rely on psychological medication to block them out.
2- Realize you are responsible for your problems. Mom and dad did not cause you to become sexually addicted.
3- Use an approach that encourages self reliance.

Let’s apply these principles to real life. Bill, George, and Larry just got fired from their jobs. Bill goes home and indulges his sorrows through masturbation with porn. George spends hours on the phone with his 12-step sponsor talking about how badly he wants to go to a hooker. When they hang up, George calls an escort service. Why? Because being with a hooker would be more pleasurable than talking to his sponsor again.
Larry comes home desperate to hit his favorite porn sites. He knows that the cause of his addiction is not in his childhood because his best friend, Tom’s, parents were both alcoholics, yet Tom never developed a problem with alcohol or drugs.
Larry had tried psychological medication. It emotionally numbed him and it caused him to lose sexual interest in his girlfriend. He has also learned through good counseling that nothing is as effective as facing reality.

He struggles through a long night of feeling depressed, angry, and confused. But he has one thing going for him – the human mind. As he allows his mind to face the problem, he realizes that losing his job was not the end of the world, even though it felt that way at first. He knows he can recover from it because the human mind is built to survive much worse crises than losing a job.
Bill and George wake up the next morning feeling disgusted. Larry wakes up feeling what every person needs to overcome sex addiction: the confidence that he can rely on himself and that he can make the best of life no matter how bad things get.
Sex addiction is the symptom. Escape is the cause.
Overcome your tendency to escape and you’re on your way to overcoming sex addiction.

You’re welcome to read the first 15 chapters of my book
“The Most Personal Addiction: how I overcame sex addiction and how anyone can.“

Or visit SexualControl.com

Author: Joe Zychik

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The Problems Of High Blood Pressure And Sex

Most people who are suffering from high blood pressure experience little if any symptoms at all, but the effect which this condition can have on your sex life if often significant and signs of sexual difficulty can sound a warning bell.

The effect of high blood pressure is to damage the lining of your blood vessels and to cause hardening of your arteries so that your heart is forced to work harder to pump blood around your body. This in turn raises the pressure in your arteries. In addition, the damage to your arteries results in a general reduction in the flow of blood throughout your body.
As far as men are concerned this general reduction in blood flow also means a reduced flow of blood to the penis and difficulty in both achieving and maintaining an erection. It also means that, even when you can achieve and maintain an erection, high blood pressure can create problems with ejaculation.
For the majority of men the appearance of the first signs of sexual dysfunction is very worrying and concern that, having happened for the first time, the problem might well re-appear. This leads some men to avoid sex so that not only does the event cause them distress, but it also often generates problems in their relationship with their sexual partner.

In the case of women the effect of high blood pressure is not as clearly defined and, at this time, has not been well researched. We do know however that high blood pressure causes a lower flow of blood to the vagina, leading to lower sexual desire and arousal, vaginal dryness and problems in achieving orgasm.
As with men, most women find this event very worrying and will again shy away from sex, putting their relationship with their sexual partner under strain.

The news in not all bad though and today there are a number of things which can be done to solve the problem, including getting your doctor to prescribe suitable medication. The first step in the process therefore if high blood pressure in causing problems in your sex life is to consult your doctor.
TheBloodPressureCenter.com is a comprehensive and growing blood pressure resource center covering everything from spotting the first sign of high blood pressure to finding the best home blood pressure monitor.

Author: Donald Saunders

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Introducing generic Viagra and Cialis for the treatment of male impotence

The advent of the Internet provided instant access to a wide variety of drugs, including those for the treatment of male impotence. Generic drugs are widely advertised on the Internet, being purchased by millions of people looking to improve their erectile function and escape the fear of penile dysfunction. Drugs such as generic Viagra or Cialis have similar dynamic properties but their price is lower than the original brand.

The mechanism involved in the penile erection is complex and it is represented by a reflex reaction to touching plus the erection achieved through erotic, arousing factors. It is important to understand that generic Viagra will only work in the presence of sexual arousal, dilating the blood vessel in the penis, granting a normal erection, if not sustained.
The Internet constitutes a thorough guide for anyone facing erectile dysfunction and other related afflictions. It can teach how to use generic Viagra, recommend dosage and specify efficacy levels, plus elaborate warnings. When taking such a drug, every small detail is important and every step should be taken with the assistance of a doctor. Use the Internet for information purposes and also to benefit from incredible prices, but always remember to ask for medical assistance.
Generic Viagra has quickly gained popularity due to the fact that it was one of the first medical treatments for men impotence, administered orally. Its effects were observed quite rapidly, especially in the case of a four-hour long erection. Still, there are some warnings and drug interactions that must be known before taking the drug. For example, it is not recommended to take generic Viagra at the same time with nitrates and also to pay attention to potential side effects (priapism, hypotension and even uncontrolled arrhythmias).

Studies have shown that another effective drug for the treatment of erectile dysfunction is generic Cialis. Having the same basic recommendations such as Viagra, a dose of 20 mg equals 100 mg of Viagra. Commercially sold as Tadalafil, the yellow-coated tablets start working real fast and last for almost two days, working in the presence of sexual stimulation.
As with Viagra, generic Cialis presents several interactions, especially with organic nitrates. The risk of dangerous hypotension is high and not worth the pain. Some of the most encountered side effects come in the form of bluish vision, indigestion and flushing. Rarely, they can produce abdominal pain, cataract and coordination problems. Pay increased attention to all the information presented on the Internet as there is your health you are talking about. Consider the special warnings of generic Cialis and your own personal problems.

Generic Cialis and Viagra are recommended for the treatment of erectile dysfunction and male impotence, but they do not offer any protection whatsoever against sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS. They are not to be used by women, especially as the effects during pregnancy or upon the baby are not known. Both must be taken before sexual activity and only the recommended dosage.
Symptoms such as vertigo, nausea or chest pains represent important reasons for you to contact your doctor. Make sure you let him/her know what drugs you have been taking, including those for male potency. Seek prompt medical assistance in the case of prolonged erection and any signs of heart problems (angina). Avoid excessive quantities of alcohol as it can potentate the effect of the drug and lead to unwanted consequences.

There have been many controversies and studies taken on these drugs. Scientists are constantly looking to improve the effects of Viagra, Cialis and other drugs for the treatment of erectile dysfunction. At the same time, they desire to decrease the possible side effects and adverse reactions. They want to offer the one who takes it the possibility to develop a normal erection and engage in sexual intercourse. For further information and assistance, the Internet and its specialized resources are the best.
Generic drugs can help you achieve a normal and sustained erection. Use us to find out more about generic Viagra prescriptions and warnings, plus the advantages of using generic Cialis. Manage your erectile dysfunction the proper way with effective drugs.

Introducing generic Viagra and Cialis for the treatment of male impotence / Author: Clint Jhonson

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